Sunday, May 19, 2013

When Support Becomes More Like Babysitting

When Support Becomes More Like BabySitting

So, you thought that I was going to keep playing nice. You're strong! Take it like a champ!

Man, do I hate it when people are always spamming my page about sappy love stories that are poor cover-ups for babysitting! I understand that you are in a relationship for 7 years and I congratulate you on your accomplished time in but when you start complaining to me about how you are proud that you are taking in a partner with no job, no dreams, and no goals that's when I hit delete

Stop thinking that your partner should have to take care of you. Be able to be a provider for yourself in times of hardship as well.

Yes, this is what it looks like!


GIVE ME A BREAK! 

If you are falling prey to your partner taking advantage of you, the first step is to talk to them about it (to their faces). Not to your girls or to your boys but to your partner. They say the biggest reasons why people break up is due to lack in communication and there you have it.

Step 1:

Talk to your partner and tell them the truth about how you feel you are being used, mistreated, and taken advantage of. 

Step 2:

Come up with a plan on how you can get them back on their feet without continuing to put everything on the line including your relationships with family, friends, and business. 

Step 3:

If you find out that its not in your best interest to keep going on with the relationship, you already know what's next. If you can work it out, then work it out!

Experience is the best teacher. Get out before its too late and you have a family with a dead-beat woman or man that cannot provide for you and your family in the ways that he or she should. There is no reason why you should constantly be holding up for two when you were designed as one person.

To those that are model partners, I thank you for constantly being a role model to those that are still learning.

Please connect with me and tell me how you have handled this situation. If you haven't come across it, leave your comments below anyway!

To Your Significance and Success,

2 comments:

  1. We Teach People How to Treat Us

    We teach people how to treat us. Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.

    You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot

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    1. Perry, thank you for your response! Yes, you are EXACTLY right! People will only treat you how you allow them to treat you. This goes for personal and public relationships alike. Demand your respect and it will be given.

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